When You Feel Like You’re Falling Behind; You are Becoming

Something I’ve struggled with a lot lately is looking around and seeing everyone accomplishing such amazing things. I can’t help but feel like I’m falling behind. And if you’ve ever felt this way too—whether it's about your relationships, your career, your finances, or where you live—needless to say you're not alone.

So many of us silently carry the weight of feeling like what we’re doing isn’t enough. Like the path we’ve chosen isn’t unfolding fast enough, or the timing is off. It can feel like we missed something important along the way—some invisible deadline we didn’t even agree to. This post is for that feeling. The one that whispers, “You should be further along by now.”

What I Hope You Remember

Healing doesn’t have to be so difficult. You don’t have to fix yourself to be worthy. You don’t have to rush to prove your value. You’re already doing so much more than you give yourself credit for. And you don’t have to carry it all alone.

Sometimes we just need a gentle reminder that it’s okay to not have it all figured out. That it's okay to feel lost or unsure. That even the people who look like they have it all together… feel like this, too.

Everything Comes in Seasons

Life moves in seasons—and so do you. There will be moments that feel like everything is falling apart. But often, your mind is just trying to protect you by preparing for the worst. Most of the time, the storm isn’t as devastating as it seems in your thoughts.

And more importantly, nothing in life is permanent. Not the confusion, not the uncertainty, not the fear. No winter lasts forever.

This can be a hard truth to hold when you’re in a season of joy—but a deeply comforting one when you’re in a season of struggle. Life always finds a way to bring balance. What falls will rise again. What feels stuck will shift. You are not behind—you are becoming.

Let Go of the Timeline

I used to believe I had to figure everything out quickly. That taking too long meant I was falling behind in life. I still catch myself in those thoughts sometimes—What if it’s too late later? What if I miss my chance? But I’m learning that forcing something before I’m ready doesn’t lead to peace. It leads to more disconnection.

In The Power of the Subconscious Mind, Joseph Murphy reminds us that even the smallest beliefs we repeat to ourselves shape how we see who we are. I’m starting to speak more kindly to myself. To trust that waiting isn’t wasting. That stillness isn’t stagnation. That slowing down can be a sacred act of self-respect.

You don’t have to move faster. You don’t have to do more. You don’t have to catch up to anyone.
You just have to be where you are—and keep listening.

A Gentle Reminder:

You’re not falling behind.
You’re just in a different season.
And even now—especially now—you are still becoming.